This Is How You Really Love Someone Through Depression

The phrase ‘love yourself before someone can love you’, doesnt apply to people who have depression. Because more than anything they are learning how to love and accept themselves. But sometimes, it takes following someone elses lead to get there.

What people fail to address is the concept of truly being loved by another person is what will diminish depression. It might not go away but the closest someone can get to beating depression is learning to love another person and learning to let someone love you.

So how do you love someone like this? How do you overcome the battles you might never understand?

1. Through acceptance.

Understand that this might be something you will never understand. Internal battles within ones self, can really only be understood to the core if youve lived through it. So youll have to accept this without fully understanding it. And yes, youll see the impact it might have on the person you love and that might impact you but just know its not something youll get. But you don’t have to understand this to love them.

2. Youre going to see a side to them they hate.

Theres a reason they hide it. Theres a reason a lot of people havent seen it. But youre bound to when you love someone. That person who is positive and upbeat and lights up every room they walk into is only that way because theyve lived through whats on the other side of it. It’s going to be hard at first.

3. Understand who they are at their worst isnt them.

When they choose to let you in that close, what youll realize is how opposite this person in front of you on one of their bad days is compared to the one you fell in love with. Youll notice a change in even their tone of voice. Youll notice a glazed over look in their eyes. Everything about them will be different. Understand the negative thoughts and the words coming out of their mouth, youve never heard before arent them. Its this disease. Depression is a disease.

4. They are going to push you away.

On their bad days, the thoughts will consume them that they arent capable of being loved. Love them anyway. Even when they dont believe it. They will convince themselves they are a burden. Love them anyway. They will think you are better off without them and deserve someone healthy. Choose them anyway. They will tell you to leave more than once. Choose to stay.

5. The bad days will pass.

There will be days they wont want to get out of bed or be productive. There will be days where you look at them and you feel helpless, wishing you could fix it. There will be days you blame yourself as their partner for not making them happier. Dont think like that. This isn’t your fault and it isn’t their fault. There will days where they break down in tears and cant even articulate why they are feeling this way. In those moments, hold them. Be their strength. The best thing you can do is stand beside them on the bad days because like all things, depression is a feeling that will pass. Its a storm that will end. Believe that.

5. Youll learn to appreciate the good days.

More than anything loving someone with depression will teach you an appreciation for things youve never thought about before. Youll appreciate the good days as much as they do and thats what will make it worth it. Just like those good days give them strength on their bad days, it too will give you strength. Because trust me when I say this, the good days outweigh the bad ones.

6. It will be an emotional rollercoaster.

This will test you in a way, youve never been challenged before. But there wont be a better ride in your life. Because people with depression might know such negativity. They might take you to dark places youd never choose. But along with knowing all of that, people with depression have an ability to love so deeply. They have a compassion for others that will teach you to be better. They have eyes that see beyond what is on the surface and their ability to understand and relate to people will be the reason you fell in love with them.

7. But it will be the ride of your life and totally worth it.

People who live with depression also know how to love deeper than anyone in the world.
And if you’re lucky to be on the receiving end of that, their love will fill you in a way those bad days wont even matter. Their love will make you a version of yourself you never thought you would be, in the best way. And it will be through love, you both can continue to beat this together.

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Finsbury Park attack: Theresa May condemns ‘sickening’ terror attack – BBC News

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Prime Minister Theresa May says the terror attack near a north London mosque is “every bit as sickening” as other recent ones to hit the UK.

A man drove a van into worshippers close to the Muslim Welfare House in Finsbury Park as they were gathered to help an elderly man who had collapsed.

He later died, but it is not clear if this was a result of the attack. Nine other people were taken to hospital.

A 48-year-old man has been arrested on suspicion of attempted murder.

Metropolitan Police Commissioner Cressida Dick said the incident was “quite clearly an attack on Muslims”, and the community would now see more police, including armed officers, in the area, “particularly around religious establishments”.

It is the fourth terror attack in the UK in three months, after incidents in Westminster, Manchester and on London Bridge.

Police said all the victims of the attack were Muslim and many were believed to have just left evening prayers after breaking the Ramadan fast.

Security Minster Ben Wallace said the suspect was not known to the security services, and was believed to have acted alone.

The prime minister said police declared it a terrorist incident within eight minutes and a 48-year-old white man was now in custody.

Mrs May was speaking after chairing a meeting of the government’s emergency Cobra committee.

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“It was an attack that once again targeted the ordinary and the innocent going about their daily lives – this time British Muslims as they left a mosque having broken their fast and prayed together at this sacred time of year,” she said.

She added that “there has been far too much tolerance of extremism over many years”.

“It is a reminder that terrorism, extremism and hatred take many forms; and our determination to tackle them must be the same whoever is responsible.”

After making her statement outside Downing Street, the prime minister visited Finsbury Park Mosque, which is also close to the scene of the incident, where she held talks with faith leaders.

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Nine people were taken to hospital after the attack, which happened shortly after midnight, and several are seriously injured.

Eyewitness Abdul Rahman told the BBC: “When the guy came out from his van he wanted to escape, run away, and he was saying ‘I want to kill Muslims. ‘I want to kill Muslims.’

“I hit him on his stomach… and then me and the other guys… we held him to the ground until he couldn’t move. We stopped him until the police came.”

Adil Rana, 24, said “people were punching him and beating him, which was reasonable because of what he’s done”.

The imam of Muslim Welfare House – which is also a community centre – said a passing police van was flagged down after the attack.

Mohammed Mahmoud told reporters: “We told them the situation – there’s a man, he’s restrained, he mowed down a group of people with his van and there is a mob attempting to hurt him and if you don’t take him then, God forbid, he might be seriously hurt.

“We pushed people away from him until he was safely taken by police.”

Toufik Kacimi, chief executive of Muslim Welfare House, said the suspect had told those holding him “you deserve it” and was also saying “I did my bit”.

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Another witness, who gave his name as Abdul, told the BBC the suspect was shouting “kill me, I’ve done my job”.

Earlier, police also said the arrested man would be the “subject of a mental health assessment in due course”.

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Mayor of London Sadiq Khan said: “While this appears to be an attack on a particular community, like the terrible attacks in Manchester, Westminster and London Bridge it is also an assault on all our shared values of tolerance, freedom and respect.”

Thee mayor has also reiterated his calls for the government to provide more funding to the Met Police.

BBC home affairs correspondent Dominic Casciani said it was not the first time that Muslims – and specifically visible Muslim targets, namely mosques – had been targeted in an act of terrorism in the UK.

The threat from extreme right-wing groups has been growing in recent years, he said, noting that 16% of all terror arrests in the year to March were classed as “domestic extremism”.

At the scene

By Cherry Wilson, BBC News

Locals say this is a proudly multicultural area, where the biggest rivalry is whether you support Arsenal or their north London rivals, Tottenham.

Now the mood here is one of shock, as residents stand by the police cordon seeing the aftermath of yet another attack in London.

Mother-of-four Nicola Senior, 43, is walking back from taking her children to school when she stops to take in the scene.

She said: “I’m frightened. Is there going to be retaliation?

“I am fearful for my kids. Can we go to the park? Can we go to the church? It feels like this is happening all the time.”

‘Everyone is on edge’ after attack

Forensics officers are examining a white van which has Pontyclun Van Hire on it – a firm from Rhondda Cynon Taff in south Wales.

The firm said in a statement that it was “shocked and saddened” and co-operating with the police.

A dangerous juncture in the battle against extremism

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By BBC security correspondent Frank Gardner

This incident risks playing right into the hands of those planning further attacks on vulnerable citizens in the UK.

Online followers of the so-called Islamic State have been quick to seize on the Finsbury Park attack as proof of what they see as widespread hostility towards Muslims who live in the West. Inevitably, it will be used by recruiters and propagandists to incite further attacks – extremism breeds extremism.

The one thing that far right anti-Muslim extremists and violent jihadists have in common is the belief that peaceful coexistence between Muslim and non-Muslim is impossible.

The unified prayers and solidarity across communities that followed recent terror attacks are anathema to them. Extremists of both types want instead to divide society and will keep trying to bring this about by criminal acts of provocation such as this.

The Muslim Council of Britain said this was the “most violent manifestation to date” of recent Islamophobic incidents.

“We expect the authorities to increase security outside mosques as a matter of urgency.”

Mohammed Kozbar, general secretary of Finsbury Park Mosque, gave a statement on behalf of a joint faiths group.

He said that “an attack on one faith is an attack on all faith and communities”.

The group has appealed for calm, adding that “all of our efforts should be towards getting justice for the victims and ensuring our community stays the diverse, tolerant and welcome place we know it to be”.

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Media captionTheresa May said “hatred and evil” will never succeed

Home Secretary Amber Rudd described it as an appalling incident, and said new funding for security at religious sites had recently been arranged.

“We will make sure that we do all we can to reduce these sort of attacks,” she added.

Labour’s shadow home secretary and Hackney North and Stoke Newington MP Diane Abbott said on Twitter that police “must urgently review security for all mosques”.

Labour leader and Islington North MP Jeremy Corbyn has also visited the area, telling the BBC that “an attack on a mosque, an attack on a synagogue, an attack on a church is actually an attack on all of us”.

“We have to protect each other’s faith, each other’s way of life, and that’s what makes us a strong society and community.”

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Mr Corbyn attended prayers at Finsbury Park Mosque with Islington Council Leader Richard Watts.

Communities Secretary Sajid Javid has also been to the area, where he met residents and community leaders.

Speaking to the BBC, he said it was a “despicable attack” which was intended to divide society, but added: “That will fail. These perpetrators will never succeed.”

Mr Javid also said he wanted to reassure Muslims around the UK that the government would “always take a zero tolerance approach to hate crime”.

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What Its Like To Be In Love When You Have Depression

No one will love you until you learn to love yourself is an easy enough phrase to believe is true. But its terrifying, especially when you have depression. What if you never learn? As a teenager, it made me fear for my life as an adult. I was certain I would never be capable of being in a relationship, but I was very wrong. Honestly, I do not like myself very much, and in August of 2013, a boy fell very, very much in love with me.

I have dealt with depression for as long as I can remember. Ive been on and off medications, been to therapy, but its still alive and well, comfortable in its home in my bones. I can feel it every day, a tiny inkling that causes breathtaking emotional pain at the most inconvenient of times.

My depression doesnt care that I am in a relationship with a boy who makes me laugh, tells me Im beautiful 20 times a day, and cares more deeply for me than any other boy has. I am grateful for the nights he holds me while I cry for hours for no reason. I am thankful that he puts up with my random periods of irritability. He constantly attempts to comfort me if I am suddenly uncomfortable when were out in public. He fills me with hope for the future when I lead myself down the darkest of paths, plays with my hair when Im having trouble sleeping, and encourages me to eat when I have no appetite. He takes care of me and I never even had to explain myself. I still consciously think to myself, nine months into this relationship, Wow, someone is in love with me. I often think about how lucky I am to be loved, regardless of my flaws in chemistry.

This intense love is frightening, because every day, I fear that one more thing will push him over the edge. That one more time of me rolling over in bed, teary-eyed, for no reason, could push him away. I know it upsets him, and I reassure him through my salty, blurred vision that its not his fault. I am often overcome with guilt and I hate that my feelings about myself cause any pain on his part. Sometimes he is not easily convinced, but I try as hard as I can with the little energy I have. Some of our nights end in a tight hug and an Im sorry mumbled from my lips, but Im just thankful that he is still happy to wake up to me every morning.

Every day is a struggle. I am constantly on edge, going back and forth between caring too much and not caring at all, wondering when he will have enough. He is quick to remind me how much he loves me, but I am just as quick to be overcome with crippling doubt. We both know that this is how forever will be, and if he hasnt given up yet, Im certain that he is 100% all in.

Never let anyone tell you that you are not worth being loved if you dont love yourself. Never let anyone tell you that your mental illness is the reason why you are not in a relationship. Never let anyone tell you that you should smile more, fix your hair, or wear more color. Never let anyone makes you feel bad about what you cant always control.

Someone will be in love with you regardless of your most comfortable state, and if that happens to be curled up on the floor of your room, crying as you listen to your favorite sad songs, then you have found true love.

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Bill Gates Says U.S. Likely to Maintain Aid Levels for Africa

The U.S. will probably maintain its current levels of aid to Africa despite President Donald Trump’s proposals to slash funding, according to Bill Gates, the world’s richest man.

Trump said in May his government would no longer allocate funding for family planning, a move that has the potential to undermine aid programs in the poorest countries in the world. However, with Congress in control of the budget, it’s unlikely that all cuts proposed by the Trump administration will go ahead next year, Gates said in an interview in Dar es Salaam, Tanzania’s commercial capital.

“It’s quite clear that they won’t make those drastic cuts,” Gates said. “I’m hopeful they won’t make any cuts at all, but that’s still subject to debate.”

Gates said he talks with U.S. “representatives, senators” after he returns from visits to the continent and was left optimistic after meeting Defense Secretary James Mattis and National Security Adviser H.R. McMaster. “They continue to think long-term and see the U.S. relationship in Africa as being pretty important,” he said.

‘More Attention’

At the same time, the administration’s focus on domestic issues and challenges in the Middle East make it unlikely that new aid programs will emerge under Trump, he said, referring to examples such as George W. Bush’s anti-AIDS project Pepfar and Barack Obama’s Power Africa initiative.

“The chance of some new additional programs coming out of this administration, I wouldn’t want to rule it out, but I don’t think it’s that likely,” Gates said. “So I hope I am surprised and Africa gets more attention than it’s gotten to date.”

The 61-year-old billionaire philanthropist visited Tanzania as co-chairman of the Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation, which has given away more than $34 billion since its creation in 2000 and become an important sponsor of health and anti-poverty programs in Africa. While the charity funds projects ranging from nutrition to curbing neonatal deaths, almost half of its health money goes toward funding the development of vaccines for infectious diseases, most of which could be eradicated in the next 25 years, Gates said.

The foundation is “by far” the biggest funder of developing vaccines for malaria and tuberculosis, and together with the U.S. government is the main provider of HIV vaccine financing. Still, more money is necessary to speed things up, Gates said.

“Europe puts some money into these things but not a huge amount. And the rest of the world, hardly anything,” he said. “Fortunately, we’ve got science on our side and the understanding of human biology including things like the microbiome, how the immune systems work, is advancing at quite a rate.”

Fertilizers Research

While the foundation is perhaps best known for its work in health, Gates also funds agriculture programs worldwide and is an advocate of genetically-modified seeds to improve productivity on African farms. Another priority is fertilizers, he said.

“We do a lot of soil sampling to understand in all of Africa what types of fertilizers should we do and where,” Gates said. “Getting exactly the right fertilizer for the right place, and getting those at a reasonable price is a huge challenge. Of course it varies from crop to crop. But it’s key to the economy.”

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    Amid 2020 buzz, Warren urges Democrats to reject centrist policies and move leftward

    Atlanta (CNN)In the aftermath of last year’s election, the centrist old guard is out and progressives have won the battle for the soul of the Democratic Party, Elizabeth Warren declared Saturday.

    “But, boy, we’ve inherited a hell of a challenge, haven’t we?” she said at an annual gathering here of thousands of progressive activists.
    In a speech that outlined Warren’s vision for the party’s future, the Massachusetts senator offered a series of policy prescriptions, calling on Democrats to push for Medicare for all, debt-free college or technical school, universal pre-kindergarten, a $15-an-hour minimum wage and portable benefits.
      She dug in against President Donald Trump, saying Democrats would defend undocumented immigrants brought into the United States as children and that “we’re never, ever going to build your stupid wall.”
      And she celebrated the ascendant progressive wing’s takeover of the party — which has accelerated since November’s election.
      “We don’t have to tip-toe anymore. We don’t have to hedge our bets,” Warren said.
      Through her speech, Warren didn’t shy away from the prospect of a 2020 campaign for the presidency.
      “We’re going to fight to put more women in positions of power,” she said at one point, “from committee rooms to boardrooms to that really nice oval-shaped room at 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue.”
      The crowd responded with chants of “Warren 2020!” Warren paused and smiled, and then moved on without directly addressing the chants.
      Warren is already seen as one of Democrats’ foremost voices — along with Vermont independent Sen. Bernie Sanders — on progressives’ economic policies.
      So she used her speech in front of about 3,000 attendees at the progressive Netroots Nation conference Saturday to dive into issues of culture, which have split progressive and centrist Democrats since Hillary Clinton’s loss in November.
      In a shot at Bill Clinton-era Democratic policies, Warren said Democrats are not “going back to the days of welfare reform and the crime bill.”
      “We’re not going back to the days of being lukewarm on choice,” she said. “We’re not going back to the days when universal health care was something Democrats talked about on the campaign trail but were too chicken to fight for after they got elected.”
      Warren’s comments came at a crucial moment for the Democratic Party.
      Its base is energized by the fight against Trump, and Democrats were thrilled to see the GOP effort to repeal former President Barack Obama’s Affordable Care Act fail in late July.
      However, the party is also without a national leader, and its path forward on policy is not yet settled.
      For the first time in decades, Democrats reacted to a national election loss by moving leftward — rather than to the center. The party’s leaders have embraced confrontational tactics against Trump, while a growing list of its top prospects for the 2020 presidential race — including Warren — are embracing Sanders’ call for a “Medicare for all” single-payer health care system.
      But that shift has caused consternation in some quarters. Some leading Democrats — including Colorado Gov. John Hickenlooper, New Orleans Mayor Mitch Landrieu and Florida Rep. Stephanie Murphy — recently backed the launch of a group called “New Democracy,” aimed at moving Democrats toward positions that can win over moderates, independents and disaffected Republicans.
      Warren pointed to a New York Times op-ed by Mark Penn, a Hillary Clinton 2008 campaign strategist, who called for the party to abandon “identity politics.”
      Warren noted that those calls, after previous election losses, had prevailed.
      “This time, no one cared,” she said. “Big yawn.”
      “In the wake of the last election, I’ve heard people say we need to decide whether we’re the party of the white working class or the party of Black Lives Matter,” Warren said.
      “I say we can care about a dad who’s worried that his kid will have to move away from their factory town to find good work — and we can care about a mom who’s worried that her kid will get shot during a traffic stop,” she said. “The way I see it, those two parents have something deep down in common — the system is rigged against both of them — and against their kids.”
      Warren argued that many of the voters who abandoned Democrats and either fell into Trump’s camp or stayed home in November because they see a “rigged” system and “don’t feel like anyone in politics is doing anything to un-rig it, or it’s too broken to un-rig at all.”
      “So spare me the argument about whether we ought to be trying to bring back folks who voted for Donald Trump or trying to turn out folks who just didn’t vote,” she said. “Because we can’t do either of those things until we can show that things can change — and that we will fight to change them.”
      Warren broke out her biggest applause line mid-speech, saying Democrats don’t need permission from Senate Majority Leader Mitch McConnell — a reference to a clash between her and the Kentucky Republican earlier this year.
      “He would probably tell me to sit down and shut up,” Warren said. “Nevertheless, I would persist.”

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      Fiona Apple sends support to Sinead O’Connor: ‘You’re my hero’


      Fiona Apple uploaded a heartfelt video message supporting Sinead OConnor to her YouTube channel Thursday.

      Apple, 39, recorded the clip in response to a video OConnor posted on her Facebook last week. In the 12-minute video, OConnor, 50, tearfully explained she was living in a Travelodge motel in New Jersey. She spoke about her struggle with mental illness and thoughts of suicide.

      My entire life is revolving around not dying, and thats not living, OConnor said.

      The Irish singer-songwriter, who Rolling Stone reported was briefly “missing suicidal” in 2016, said her psychiatrist was the only thing keeping me alive.

      I just saw the video of you, and I dont want you to feel like that, Apple said in her video response. Youve given so much, and I wish I could be there. I wish I could be of some use to you. Im your friend, thats all I want to say, and youre my hero.

      See the full clip below.

      Apple also posted to her channel a video of OConnors performance at the 1989 Grammy Awards.

      A note posted to OConnors Facebook page four days later assured fans she is she is safe, and she is not suicidal.

      On Thursday OConnor posted a detailed explanation of her improving condition. She then blasted her former manager, who she recently fired. OConnors new manager, Anna M. Sala, issued the following statement:

      Sinead is a brave and courageous woman. She says her truth without fear or shame. And just as she fought against child abuse in the church, she will fight with the same strength against the stigma of mental illness, even while putting her own neck on the line.

      She is like no one else. Her courage is endless. Despite her own heartbreak, she is always concerned about the suffering of others and how she can use her voice to help them.

      She is receiving the best medical care. She is lovingly supported by a musician advocacy organization with a team of people who are working with her on the road to healing. She is improving day by day. Sinead herself said: “If not for Jazz Foundation I wouldn’t have made it. I would not be alive today if not for the unconditional love & kindness of these people.

      We are asking people to send their prayers and loving support. At this time, we are all focused on her health and wellness. But without a doubt, her fighting spirit is intact.

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      ‘Rick and Morty’ gets more brutally Freudian than ever with Pickle Rick

      Ain't nobody got time for mental health in sci-fipickle adventures

      To the surprise of Rick and Morty fans everywhere, the highly anticipatedPickle Rick” reveal of episode 3 wasn’t just a fun and ridiculous new sci-fi gag, it was a psychological reckoning.

      In fact, the running theme of Season 3 could best be described as Daddy (or Grandaddy) Issues. Taking a page out of South Park‘s recent experiments into serialized storytelling, the creators are unraveling the Smith family’s deep psychological scars week by week.

      In this one, Beth’s escalating father complex is on blast. A therapist (voiced by Susan Sarandon) forces her to see the pickle-shaped monster at the center of all her family’s problems.

      The greatest achievement of “Pickle Rick” is how it takes Freudian symbolism out of the figurative and into the literal. Grandpa Rick has conveniently chosen the exact moment of their scheduled family therapy session to experiment with turning himself into a literal phallic symbol.

      You can almost hear Freud rolling over in his grave to say, “I told you so.”

      “Morty, stop digging for hidden layers and just be impressed,” Rick commands when his grandson questions his choice in such a vessel and investment of his time and intelligence. “Im a pickle!

      When the Smith family is forced to go to therapy sans Rick, the absentee pickled patriarch finds himself in one of the most macho solo adventures ever. The Die Hard-like action plot shows masculine bravado coursing through Rick’s vinegar veins.

      Despite being a limbless vegetable, he appears no less psychotic or dangerous. Even a vegetating Rick can create a DIY mech suit of mass destruction with dead vermin limbs.

      Pickle Rick proceeds to wage the same psychological warfare on his sewer rat and Russian enemies that he uses on his own family. Understandably, as his daughter, Beth dodges any form of theraputic #realtalk.

      Particularly, she can’t stand the therapist probing into the meaning behind Rick choosing to turn himself into a literal goddamn pickle in order to avoid her and their emotional issues.

      “Does grandpa turn himself into a pickle a lot?” Sarandon asks, her words carrying more weight than they should. Or, more to the point, “Why do we think Grandpa turned himself into a pickle?”

      The kids seem poised to tell the therapist the truth: that their grandfather is a sociopathic liar of a tyrannical patriarch who’d legitimately rather not be human than have to deal with their familial issues.

      But Beth ain’t buyin’ any of this pickle-focused psychoanalysis BS.

      “Obviously, Morty and Summer are seizing on your arbitrary pickle obsession as an end to run around what was supposed to be their therapy.

      But the therapist won’t let her get off that easy, insisting that this pickle incident is the perfect encapsulation of her family’s dysfunction. “Your relationship to your father has a very specific dynamic,” she explains calmly.

      Proving Sarandon right, the “intelligent pickle man” (as the Russian bad guys come to call Rick) is indiscriminately murdering everyone in his way. Just like he did with Jerry, the family’s previous patriarch, and just like he promised he’d do to Rick if he ever got in his way.

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      Back in therapy, Sarandon finally manages to get the whole Smith family to talk about their feelings (albeit awkwardly). But just as she’s congratulating them on this progress, the pickled patriarch barges through the door to demolish it all again.

      What ensues is the most harrowing battle Pickle Rick has ever faced: the fight to undermine all the silly ideas this therapist has put in his daughter and grandchildrens’ heads about healthy relationships.

      When Sarandon confronts Rick about why he felt the need to lie to Beth with this entire, elaborate pickle scheme to avoid therapy, Rick finally shows his true colors to everyone in the room.

      As a scientist, he doesn’t respect the two-bit circus that is Sarandon’s pesudo-profession of “understanding” “feelings.” As a (pickled) man of science, he refuses to be like all the other complacent sheep caring about shit like happiness or emotions.

      Rick’s worst nightmare

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      Because, “I invent, transform, and create for a living and when I dont like something about the world, I change it.” He is above therapy. Since, “Im not a cow. Im a pickle. **Burp** When I feel like it.”

      Without ever losing a hint of her inscrutable smile, the therapist launches into one of the most succinct takedowns of toxic masculinity I’ve ever heard.

      “Rick, the only connection between your unquestionable intelligence and the sickness destroying you family, is that everyone in your family you included uses intelligence to justify sickness.”

      Despite Rick’s seemingly endless amount of knowledge, she continues, the one thing he can’t seem to wrap his big brain around is the simple concept of personal responsibility for his actions.

      “You chose to come here, you chose to talk in a way to belittle my vocation, just as you chose to become a pickle. You are the master of your own universe. And yet here you are, dripping in rat blood and feces your enormous mind literally vegetating by your own hand.

      At the end of they day, the kind of effort it takes to maintain healthy, productive relationships isn’t at all like a Die Hard-esque sci-fi adventure. There is no glory in therapy.

      “Its just work. And the bottom line is that some people are OK going to work. And some people well some people would rather die. Each of us gets to choose.

      In the car, on the way back home, Beth returns into full doting daughter mode, beaming at her tiny phallic-looking father, still in a homemade rat corpse suit. They bond over what a “weird breed” of people therapists are.

      Waving away the therapist’s decimation of their daddy/daughter dynamic, Rick invites Beth to go grab some drinks after dropping off the kids. Beth glows from his approval and attention.

      Meanwhile, in the backseat, both her kids are looking between them, desperate. They ask when they’re going back to therapy. But Beth doesn’t hear them. Or chooses not to.

      She’s too busy planning a date with the daddy who manipulated her into divorcing her husband.

      Yeah Beth,”arbitrary pickle fixation” is one way of putting it. But I think Freud actually called it an Electra Complex.

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      Red Hat updates OpenShift container platform with new service catalog

      Red Hat issued its quarterly update to the OpenShift platform today, adding among other things, a Service Catalog that enables IT or third-party vendors to create connections to internal or external services.

      OpenShift is RedHats Platform as a Service, based on Kubernetes, the open source container management platform, which was originally developed by Google. It also supports Docker, a popular container platform, and adheres to the Open Container Initiative, a set of industry standards for containers, according to the company.

      As companies make the shift from virtual machines to containers, there is an increasing need for platforms like OpenShift, and Red Hat is seeing massive interest from companies as varying as Deutsche Bank, Volvo and United Health.

      OpenShift is a technology thats helping these companies, and many others make that transition to containers, says Joe Fernandes, senior director of product management for OpenShift at Red Hat. The adoption of container technology is off the charts. Pretty much every company is adopting containers in some way, he said.

      As the company increases its container customer base, its trying to build out the platform to meet the needs of larger company IT departments. One of the things theyve been hearing is that they want it to be easier to connect containerized applications to internal and external services.

      The Service Catalog is not unlike an app store in that developers can go in and find pre-configured connectors. This could be an internal connector to an Oracle database or an external one to a public cloud service from AWS or Azure (or anything else). Fernandes says the app store analogy is apt, but points out that it doesnt have any procurement capability, at least for now. It could in the future, he says.

      Customers were able to make these service connections before, but it took a lot more effort. The goal is to provide a packaged approach so that users dont have to do the work every time, which should help speed up implementation.

      The Service Catalog is available as a technical preview for this release. The next release is due before the end of the year.

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      A new state just joined the most fascinating birth control experiment in America.

      People seeking out oral birth control in Colorado will now be able purchase the medication at a pharmacy without making a doctor’s appointment first.

      Photo by Andreas Rentz/Getty Images.

      The law that loosens the restriction was passed in 2016 and went into effect in August making the Centennial State the third to streamline the process of acquiring birth control pills, along with California and Oregon.

      The medication still has to be prescribed but that can be done by a pharmacist. The process involves a consultation, a questionnaire, and a blood pressure check, according to the Associated Press.

      Permitting pharmacies to sell oral birth control over the counter has become a bipartisan cause in recent years though the parties disagree on how to make it work.

      Many drug companies are wary to undergo the FDA’s approval process, which can be “lengthy and expensive” and includes the risk of incurring a political backlash, according to a 2015 Guttmacher Institute report.

      FDA commissioner Scott Gottlieb testifies in front of the House Agriculture, Rural Development, Food and Drug Administration and Related Agencies Subcommittee. Photo by Chip Somodevilla/Getty Images.

      Guttmacher, a reproductive health policy advocacy group, praised California and Oregon’s partial approach, while noting that it’s “unclear how pharmacists will be able to bill insurance companies for the costs of associated counseling and screening services.”

      Also in 2015, Senators Cory Gardner (R-Colorado) and Kelly Ayotte (R-New Hampshire) proposed a measure that would reward drug companies that filed applications to sell their oral contraceptives over the counter.

      The plan, while supported by a half-dozen other GOP senators, was opposed by both the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists and Planned Parenthood on the grounds that such a measure would force potential patients to “pay twice for their birth control,” if insurers no longer covered the medication as a result.

      Photo by Chip Somodevilla/Getty Images.

      A separate plan, proposed by Democratic Senator Patty Murray in 2015, would have required insurers to cover oral contraceptives purchased over the counter.

      Neither Gardner and Ayotte’s bill nor Murray’s bill passed.

      This isn’t the first time Colorado has experimented with reforming the birth control delivery process.

      In 2009, the state began offering free long-acting intra-uterine devices (IUDs) to residents. Teen pregnancies fell by over 40% over the same period.

      For now, those who advocate lowering barriers to access have a new laboratory where they can study the potential benefits.

      “People could be coming in to buy shampoo or vitamins, and they can have that conversation with a pharmacist,” pharmacist Kelsey Schwander told the Denver Post earlier this year in the run-up to the measure’s implementation.

      For Coloradans who fear the expense of a doctor’s visit, it could be a conversation worth having.

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